15. Mrs Benjamin Pantier
The epitaph of Mrs Benjamin Pantier gives us pause for thought. It is, to say the least, problematical. She claims, for instance, that her husband has probably already told us that “all the men loved him” and “most of the women pitied him”. But, of course, Benjamin Pantier told us no such thing! Was she, then, so oblivious of her husband? It would be so easy to condemn her out of hand for her seemingly dismissive attitude toward her husband. He is probably entitled to his feeling of being discarded like so much waste. This is where we should pause and ponder. What Benjamin Pantier did tell us was that he had been an attorney at law, with some aspiration and achievement behind him. And then he married a “well-endowed” woman. To our modern ears, this phrase may have particular connotations regarding a woman’s physical charms. In the latter part of the nineteenth-century/early twentieth-century, it is unlikely a woman of respectable upbringing would so de...